If there's one kind of person I really could hurt it's a Bully

Usually weak when alone, insecure or jealous, the bully will ensure that there are plenty of people around him to back him up when he needs them to.  These people will usually be like-minded and take pleasure in seeing another person being made to cry, or worry, or made to fear.  I suppose it must make them feel a little less insecure seeing someone in a worse state than they are.

But I'm not a psychologist.  I just have more than my fair share of experience.  And it looks like my daughter's going to be taking something similar into her adulthood.  But she's a strong person.  Perhaps made stronger after enduring those who would use very thin excuses to pick on a person.  In this case, it's a picture of her about four or five years ago and she's wearing glasses.  Yes, pathetic, isn't it?  Still, children are children (even those in mid- or late-teens who would be very grumpy if they were labelled 'infantile' or even 'juvenile') and perhaps allowances should be made, to a degree, for their lack of maturity (but only a small degree).

My bullies did a lifetime's worth of damage to me, but I'm hoping that my girl will be able to huddle close to those she trusts, her friends, people who know and respect her.  It's very difficult at the time, but the mind has to focus on those who aren't bullies.  And I bet she could name a whole load more who aren't than are.

So, she shrugs her shoulders, lets them have their laughs, but then feels hurt without knowing why it should hurt so much.  "It's alright mum!"  Yes, of course it is, love. 

She's just told me off for giving her a pep talk.  I honestly think it was as much for me as for her.  My mum offered me nothing when I was a teenager.  I have to step back a little and watch and hope that they don't do to her what my bullies did to me.

Nah - she's made of stronger stuff.

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